Positive and negative communication have so many nuances, and there are subtle ways to turn a negative statement or thought into a positive one. For instance, the use of “and” versus “but” in a statement. If you exchange the word “but” to “and” you turn what could be construed as a problem or conflict into a solution. For example, “I’m leaving for the concert soon but I have to get my car washed first” connotes that getting your car washed before the concert poses a problem. By simply exchanging the “but” to an “and” the statement (hence your thought process) becomes positive: “I’m leaving for the concert soon and I have to get my car washed first.” Getting the car washed is just part of the process in getting to the concert, and will simply be worked into your day.